I would encourage you not to set yourself up to fail

The Blabloids are reporting young Lindsay Lohan has checked in to rehab to begin recovery from drugs and alcohol...

The screen star was quoted as saying "...I am done with drugs and alcohol..." . I am sure you had more to say...

But based on what I have heard, let me just offer some loving advice.

Avoid statements like "I am done with...", these are what the Allman Brothers call, "waisted words"...

The reason I say this, (especially when concerning the media), is because when we make absolute statements like "I will not ever...", etc, we set our selves up to fail.

As Humans, we are prone to repeat mistakes. So if you make a statement like "I am done", then, should you fall again, those words will haunt you, and the enemy use them to bash you into pulp...


Let the desire to quit be enough.


I know the enemy demands these kinds of words from ya'lls camp(s)... And perhaps the PR people recommend, or even make these quotes up for you... But I ask you, are these words effective? do they lessen the blood hounds of hell, or only serve to bring them back more snarling should you trip??

Ignore the public if it is possible.

Ignore voices that go contrary to that peaceful small voice deep in your inner sanctum...

You instinctively know what is right.


Which is why you chose Zion as your recovery ground. Very wise.


(Take the time to visit the Spiral Jetty while here...)


That being said, let me give a few tips for wading thru the mud hole that is transition...


Number one: Though spoken as rote, "it works if you work it", from the "aa big book" is wisdom...

The problem is, that is only partial truth.

It implies, (especially when chanted) that it is easy, and magical...


I assure you. IT, is NOT easy... not by any stretch of the imagination.


Steps one two three, are the easiest of all...

It is. step 4 that becomes the real problem to overcoming...


"Take a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself"

These words seem daunting enough at first glance...

But if you meditate on the meanings of the statement, you'll see, they are terrifying, and have caused more people to kick out of recovery then anything else...

Most counselors, are not qualified to be such... they get into it, to find answers for themselves, and then, with the achievement of the "sheep skin", set them selves up as experts... then, we set them above us, and they struggle with the same kinds of temptations, and heartaches we all have... "Physician, heal thyself"...

Just make allowances for their faults: "you can not control your own faults, it is unwise to be resentful of the faults of others".

Take that fearless search... it's private work. It's silent work... save maybe the tears of repentance...



Number two: avoid "counting Days". This is folly. Again, with this kind of mindset, we set ourselves up to fail... and have compounded guilt, should we make a mistake...

Remember, You, young lady, may "QUIT", as many times as is required by YOURSELF... if that is 20 times in a 24 hour period, so be it!

Give yourself permission to be in the moment. The Truth can only be found there. IN the MOMENT. Past, future, all serve as bondage... Be here now. Be transparent. You do not owe the masses of americA, ANY fuckin' thing.... But do not resent them either...


number three: Avoid distractions.



This one of the most difficult things... even the work you love can become addiction.

A replacement for drugs, or what ever...


Just watch it.


Be aware of everything going on. Miss nothing. Hear everything, but don't stumble on it.

Don't be sensitive to language.


Don't let emotionality wash over you. You should control your emotins, not the other way around. They are meant to be a gift, not a curse...






let me leave you with the words of the Indigo Girls:


Closer To Fine
Indigo Girls
words and music Emily Saliers

"I'm trying to tell you something about my life
maybe give me insight between black and white
and the best thing you've ever done for me
is to help me take my life less seriously
it's only life after all
yeah

well darkness has a hunger that's insatiable
and lightness has a call that's hard to hear
I wrap my fear around me like a blanket
I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it
I'm crawling on your shores

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
and the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine

and I went to see the doctor of philosophy
with a poster of Rasputin and a beard down to his knee
he never did marry or see a b-grade movie
he graded my performance, he said he could see through me
I spent four years prostrate to the higher mind
got my paper and I was free

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine

I stopped by the bar at 3 a.m.
to seek solace in a bottle or possibly a friend
and I woke up with a headache like my head against a board
twice as cloudy as I'd been the night before
and I went in seeking clarity.

I went to the doctor, I went to the mountains
I looked to the children, I drank from the fountains
yeah we go to the doctor, we go to the mountains
we look to the children, we drink from the fountains
yeah we go to the bible, we go through the workout
we read up on revival and we stand up for the lookout
there's more than one answer to these questions
pointing me in a crooked line
the less I seek my source for some definitive
(the less I seek my source)
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine
the closer I am to fine"

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Keep Up The Good Work!

I am proud of you.




La Vie Boheme